For the longest time, I thought humans just fell in love. But the truth is, love in its purest form is not falling, but Rising. The beauty of this is that when both parties inevitably separate – whether this be through passing into the next realm or through a mutual agreement – they leave the other in their risen state. Imagine the space for growth created by ending a relationship feeling enlivened and fulfilled, instead of heart broken. Unfortunately, most love is egoic in nature and since both parties “fell” into it, they are ultimately left at a lower level. Read the rest of this entry
A lot of us have a tendency to expect our romantic partners to fulfill all of our needs. The thing is, it’s totally unrealistic to expect one person to do so! Take the pressure off of him/her and start finding romance, joy, and fulfillment in all facets of your life!
- Obviously, to get the best results, you need to actually make an online profile.
- Said profile contains descriptions, photos, and general qualifications, all meant to portray yourself as the ideal candidate. If you’re lacking detail in one of these facets, you become substantially less appealing and the same goes for the other party. You stare at your profile, trying imagine how viewers of it will perceive you. You also start wondering if you’ll ever find an ideal match.
- There’s an intricate balance between being fully authentic and showcasing your finer attributes (Obviously, you don’t want to mention that you can belch loudly, before you’ve even met them…). This all is occurring within both parties. Sometimes, you’re left wondering about the validity of certain profiles (e.g. “Is this host family really able to pay me €500 per week?” or “Can this au pair actually fluently speak/read nine languages, including ancient Egyptian hieroglyphics?”).
- You spend hours sifting through hundreds of profiles, marking “interests” or “favorites” along the way. These people get notified and there’s a moment of elation whenever they send back that they’re also interested in you. Unfortunately, you can’t help but feel a bit of rejection, whenever you get a notification that the party you were very interested does not reciprocate.
- If both parties are interested, one reaches out to the other and a message chain is started. Likes, dislikes, mutual interests, and what each party is looking for in the other are discussed.
- After realizing that the other party is everything you dreamed of, the excitement sets in. You find yourself talking about them to friends, many of whom will think it’s odd, seeing as you’ve yet to meet them. You have pictures of them on your cell phone. You have your friends sit with you and pour over their online profile. Overall, you’re just so thrilled that you found your ultimate match online, that you’re willing to tell anyone and everyone who will listen.
- There may a time when you haven’t heard from them in a week or so. You get very worried. You wonder if you’ve done something wrong and look back through old messages to see if you missed anything. The same people who you gushed about them to now get to hear how concerned you are. You realize you may have to accept that they’re not really “the one” and move on. Right when you’ve been about to give up, you get a message from them apologizing for the delay and explaining what had happened. You’re so relieved!
- Around this time is when you think it’s serious enough to tell your parents. You’re excited and nervous about what the future may hold. You gush about how great they are to your parents and show them an exorbitant amount of pictures.
- After much online communication, you decide upon a time to meet.
- Finally, you’ve realized they’re the one for you and decide to move in.
Hey, all! I sincerely apologize for my lack of activity on here, recently. I am going to be posting more frequently, from now on.
Over my young life, I’ve encountered many people and observed a lot of relationships. I decided to make a vlog on a few of my thoughts. As said in the video, I’d love to hear your feedback and constructive criticism!
- 37 Rules to Fighting Fair
- Radical Honesty & Improving Relationships
- 9 Steps to Better Communication
- Fighting Fairly for Couples
- Pain Bodies
- Communication Pitfalls & Pointers
- Absolute Honesty for Beginners (video)
- The Pain Body (video)
- RawBrahs on Radical Honesty (video)
- Radical Honesty & Empathy (video)