For the longest time, I thought humans just fell in love. But the truth is, love in its purest form is not falling, but Rising. The beauty of this is that when both parties inevitably separate – whether this be through passing into the next realm or through a mutual agreement – they leave the other in their risen state. Imagine the space for growth created by ending a relationship feeling enlivened and fulfilled, instead of heart broken. Unfortunately, most love is egoic in nature and since both parties “fell” into it, they are ultimately left at a lower level.
Isn’t it odd how when we fall in love with someone, we desire to possess them? Suddenly, we want to have a claim to their heart, their mind, and their body. In fact, we often hear the term “love sick” to describe this experience. We yearn for them, we ache for them, and the thought of them with someone else can literally make us sick…“love sick.” The thing is, this type love is egoic and possessive. In fact, I believe it’s a mere imitation of what unadulterated, unconditional love actually is.
Today, there is so much emphasis on instant gratification. We live in a “fast-food society” in which the quick-fix is valued above all. Sadly, this often still applies even when not taking the easy route provides a more desirable outcome. Avoiding this involves taking a step out of your current life situation and really examining your intentions. I would love to tell you that taking the higher path will be easy, but in earnest, there will be growing pains. When you deny the ego, it will desperately grasp out and try to latch onto anything else. As Eckhart Tolle states, “The ego wants to want more than it wants to have.” The ego isn’t actually concerned with attaining a specific thing. That goal is just a guise. The ego thrives on wanting and there will always be something else for it to chase…something which does not reside in the Present.
While the death of the ego will not feel initially comfortable, the result is opening up your heart to be able to love unconditionally. In fact, you will be able to drop into a state of unconditional love without any intervening time or space. If two people are in a place to do this, the result is magical. A beautiful component of dropping immediately into a place of love is releasing attachment to any specific outcome. When we are attached to getting something, somewhere, or someone, it takes us out of the Present. Our goal becomes future based, opposed to just existing and appreciating the moment. Instead of being consumed be a future-based goal, why not be fully Present in the moment and really experience life? Go deep, open up, and Rise in love!
I was first introduced to the phrase “rising in love” through a man quoting his beautiful vocal alchemist friend, Tiffany Tatum. The term really resonated with me and there are many other books and articles written on “rising in love” that I recommend checking out. While I have conversed with many individuals on the topics of love, attachment, and conscious relationships, my first introduction to the premise of non-attachment/possession and dropping immediately into love came from a dear friend, Kyle Cease. I highly recommend exploring the wealth of information in his content.