I Don’t Know What I’m Doing and That’s OK!

I Don’t Know What I’m Doing and That’s OK!

To clarify, I am still moving to Europe at the end of this summer! I realized it might sound a bit confusing – I was more so referring to not knowing my “life plan.”

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  1. I couldn’t agree with you more. I mean, once I started watching this video I couldn’t stop because I kept expecting you to say a certain thing and you always did! I’ve thought the exact same thing for the past two to three years now, just floating my way through undergrad without paying much attention. As soon as I realized that everything is future based, I stopped thinking in that direction. It’s nice to see that a few other people in the world right now think exactly that way. I don’t know what I’m doing and I don’t know who I am. Pretty much :)
    Look forward to the next posts.

      • I used to dwell a lot in the past, and then I started realizing that time passes too quickly to keep doing that. Also, after I traveled alone a couple of times and started reading travel blogs and other articles on the internet, it showed me how much I would actually hate to be stuck in one place doing one thing. And now I feel like if I don’t travel I probably won’t be happy with anything I’m doing.
        Also, the movie ‘Into the Wild’ contributed :)

  2. You explained exactly what I feel…before I graduated, in fact from about the age of 10 I had my entire future planed I would go to university, get a job in advertising get married and have children a white picket fence and a dog. After taking a year out to travel my entire perspective shifted and I no longer focused on all of these things, all of my friends and family think that I’m going insane but I think that you shouldn’t always focus on the future because you will miss the present.

    In the west we are always programed to want more never to just be content with what you have…Do I still want all of those things that I dreamt for myself in the future? Yes, but its ok to not know when or how it may happen if it does because things always seem to have a way of working themselves out, and there is so much to be said for living in the moment.

    Great post :)

    • I love that this resonated with you, Claire! That sounds oh so similar to my childhood plan (just going into the field of psychology).

      I feel like travel will definitely alter my perspective. I’m going to make a video on it soon, but I was recently lead to delve into my reasoning for travel. A friend pointed out that most people seek out these new experiences for the purpose of expansion…when in reality, the only way you can expand is through internal developments. That said, I do think travel can serve as a catalyst for for development.

      Sending lots of love your way!

  3. Great post! I’ve been having similar thoughts for a long time, it’s always heartening to hear others give their view on things like this since it is so easy to get stuck in the same tracks, at least for me. Personally I think it is in that moment of realising that I don’t know who I am that I enter a state of mind where I can actually disover an answer – perhaps, as you say, not one that can be put into words but one that can be felt. : )
    On a related note, have you seen/heard this one by Alan Watts? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ERbvKrH-GC4

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  5. I kind of love this post. I’m in the same boat…I have plans to teach English in Thailand this fall, but as for a life plan, I have none. I went to a crazy good college, and now as a post-grad, it’s like, I’m supposed to know what I want out of life and have some great career plan. But are we really supposed to know? Does everyone have to have a career? Sometimes, society (and older people) make me feel like it’s not okay to dream and not have a plan, but maybe that’s actually okay? Love reading your blog!

    • I can definitely identify with your current life situation! I think it’s beautiful that we’re able to enjoy this moment and not worry about what we’re doing 50 years from now – we’re not guaranteed any time! I think there’s an intricate balance between living in the Now and planning for the future.

      In regard to understanding the mentality of the older generation, I have something I think will aid you. A friend of a friend researched a fascinating theory – the Pendulum Cycle. Watch the video and it will help you understand why the way people in our generation process things is different than that of prior generations.

  6. I agree, we are groomed to focus on the future so much that many people forget to live for the present. I want to live now and figure out the future when it gets here. :) Great Vlog.

  7. You amaze me! I admire your healthy mind and I hope you will inspire many people to at least think about what you’re actually talking about. Most people live/sleep in and for the(ir) past and the(ir) future instead of actually spend enough time in the present. Thanks for reminding me what i almost forgot over the past few years… You saved my presence, thank you!

    Looking forward having your positive energy here in Europe :)

  8. Well expressed thoughts through the video.The future is made with determination and dedication.Some years ago l lived in Vienna and l made it.I am sure you will succeed .Wishing you the best in Europe .jalal

  9. Excellent philosophy! Preoccupy = worry. Thinking about the future is preoccupying ourselves. This takes away the present which is all we have. It’s all so much easier said than done. I find it’s important to remind myself of this way of thinking as often as possible.

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